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Caring for someone who has prostate cancer
is a challenging, emotional experience. It is important to know neither
you nor your partner is alone at this time. To help you take care of yourself,
as well as your partner, here are a few suggestions.
 Be
available to communicate. Part of caring for your partner involves
listening to his hopes, fears, anger, and confusion — and sharing
your own. Let him know that you are interested in talking and listening
to him. But remember to work on his timetable and be realistic. He may
not be able to articulate his thoughts and feelings at the beginning.
Don’t force him to talk when he isn’t ready.
Learn
all you can about prostate cancer and its treatment. Refer to the
brochures your partner’s physician provides; they contain important
information and often list additional resources. Ask your partner’s
physician or nurse for recommendations about other places to turn for
information, such as a support organization or your local library. We
have provided a list of useful online resources on our helpful
links page.
Take
advantage of support groups. It is often helpful to be around others
who are going through the same feelings and experiences. There are a number
of support groups to which you and your partner or family can turn. The
following links may help you find a support group in your area:
Use
e-mail and online chat groups. For people who live in remote areas,
are unable to leave the house, or are uncomfortable with support groups,
the Internet offers an anonymous exchange of ideas and stories about those
living with prostate cancer from the comfort and privacy of your home.
Become
a partner in his treatment. Attend doctor’s appointments and
accompany him when he goes to the doctor’s office for tests. You
may find it helpful to bring written questions to appointments. Keep a
pad handy where you can write down questions as they come to you. Bringing
written questions to appointments will help you better communicate with
your doctor and nurse. You should feel comfortable asking your partner’s
physician or nurse about treatments, side effects, and quality of life
issues.
Take
care of yourself. Often while all your attention is focused on
your partner and his health, you forget your needs. If your daily routine
becomes overwhelming, don’t be afraid to ask for assistance. A friend
or relative may be willing to help out for a few hours. You might hire
a home care professional a few hours a week, or enlist a maid service
so you can have some time to yourself.
Be
conscious of your outlook. Sometimes, attitude is half the battle;
it has a big affect on your partner’s overall health, as well as
your own, so you will need to find things that allow you to concentrate
on the positive in your life. Consider activities such as meditation,
yoga, taking walks, and listening to soft music to help you refocus.
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